How Your Life Can Be A Dream
Author: Yong Mu Ming
Most everyone, at some point in their life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?
Of all these big dreams and personal goals, too many times these dreams just remain as dreams. For all our desire to aspire, they simply gather mental dust over the ages. Even though from time to time we dust them off to longingly look at them.
One key self-imposed limit is to have these grand dreams and then to take no action on them.
Now work out the steps you can see right now that would help you achieve that goal.
Just in recognizing their presence could become another sad reminder in our lives. By reviewing the glorious hopes, we can find that far from living this life of excitment, we are only stuck in the daily grind of our routine jobs. Often, just barely existing under the debt and threat of job loss.
Did you ever think that life could actually be much better if only we learned to convert these dreams to responsible action?
Of course, the first stumbling block to achieving any goal is to believe in that lie called "Impossible." There are a lot of phrases like that: "I can't do this." or "It's too hard." "It's too unrealistic." "No one can do this."
Of course, if everyone thought that way, there would probably never have been any inventions, discoveries, or breakthroughs which make up the list of human accomplishments.
Now you may recall the story of baffled scientists to tried to apply the laws of aerodynamics to the simple bumblebee. They all agreed that in theory it was impossible for the lowly bee to fly at all. However, no one ever got around to telling the bee that - so it continues to fly through its life with no difficulties at all.
One key self-imposed limit is to have these grand dreams and then to take no action on them. The outcome is often that there are only dull, humdrum lives - with broken dreams and the only action is on TV sets.
To the degree you limit yourself with doubt and assumptions of pre-ordained failure, you may never be able to have any breakthrough past what you now consider to be impossible. Sky high dreams can only fail when you take no action toward any goal you've set.
Try this exercise: Take a sheet of paper and write down the main goals you wouldn't mind achieving. Make three headers -Things you know you can do; Things you might be able to do; and Things which are impossible to do.
Now work out the steps you can see right now that would help you achieve that goal. Put them under each header according to how hard you think they are to attain or achieve.
Now every day, review that goal statement and see that dream in your mind again. Then, look over that list under "Things you know you can do" and get some of those done that day. And look over "Things you might be able to do" and see if you can get some of those done somehow.
As you start getting more and more things done in the first column, you can work on getting more things done in the second column, as these will probably become more possible to do. As you get better at getting things done, you can look over that third column of "Things that are impossible to do" and see if you now start seeing how some of those might be able to get done.
As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.
The point here is to not limit your imagination. Regardless of how high you aim, if you start working toward that goal with little steps, you can achieve it. It's been said to be unwise to set a goal which is unrealistic. However, in most cases, you can break down that star-high goals into smaller steps which are more doable right now. As you get these completely, you will see that the "might be able to do" steps can be accomplished by similarly breaking them down. And you'll probably see that nothing is particularly impossible when you apply this strategy to them.
Those who only dream towards a goal and never work at doing the smaller steps only end up disappointed and disillusioned.
On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But through sheer desire and perseverance, and building on all the little and doable steps in between, these impossible dreams are now realities.
So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. Plan your work and work your plan. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.
Because your life could be a dream - if you really you want it to be.
Known for extensive writing in self-help and personal development, Dr. Robert C. Worstell (see author interview) has just published a New Age fiction book, "The Dreamer Dreamed" which explores the concept of how life could be a dream, among other ideas.